- Combine advocacy with inquiry - exploring your viewpoint by inviting others to ask questions
- Illustrate your abstract interpretation with concrete information - providing specific details on how you based your claim.
Living in San Diego, it is easy to become familiar with the San Diego-Coronado Bridge. But, even with this one bridge, we may describe it differently because of the various points where we may see it (e.g., from San Diego, from Coronado, from the bay, etc.). Similarly, we may observe the same event in different ways.
San Diego - Coronado Bridge, from Coronado (Caltrans) |
The third dialogue skill invites us to share our thought process, checking for agreement at each step of the Ladder of Inference.
The foggy misunderstandings between us begin to clear as we check out what is common or different between how we experience the world. Questions to consider about bridges:
- Can we agree that bridges connect?
- Can we agree that bridges provide passage between two points?
Golden Gate Bridge, San Francisco (The New Yorker) |
The positions each of us have come to believe may be just as valid and important. Another question to consider: how can we come to understand and accept another person's views, and allow a bridge to be built between us rather than letting the differences separate us?
San Francisco - Oakland Bay Bridge (thebaylights.org) |
Brooklyn Bridge, New York |
Tower Bridge, London (from Shard observation deck) |
Rialto Bridge, Venice |
As we learn to build bridges, let us not be afraid to listen to old and new, past and present. It is through the process of slowing down, listening, and testing what we have heard from the other person that new understandings and relationships grow. Bridges do create passages to somewhere: the Both-And of old and new destinations are explored when we travel from one point to another. Hopefully, we arrive together!
Ponte della Constituzione or Ponte di Calatrava, Venice |
Cheers to the bridges you create and strengthen this week!
Larry Gardepie |
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