Sitting on our hotel balcony looking out at San Diego Bay, I was aware of the bars that obstructed my view. I realize the barrier is there for my safety, but sometimes it is a nuisance when I can't see clearly. I could make an effort to see beyond the obstruction: I could stand up to be above the barrier!
It's amazing how often I don't exert any extra energy to get beyond my limitations... of assumptions about others; meanings I've attached to what someone tells me; conclusions I've made about the erratic driver on the freeway!
|What blocks your view of others?|
(Photo: San Diego Bay)
Barriers come in many shapes and sizes, and I can always rationalize how my reasoning keeps me safe. But, walking along the shoreline, I noticed something different. I became aware of the natural barriers around me: the sand that slows me down when I walk; the water that keeps me from the other side of the bay; and the distant mountains that hide what I cannot see.
Looking closer I saw boats scattered on the beach and a bridge that curved across the bay: boats that could transport me... with effort... to the mainland; a bridge that could connect me to two ways of living (island life and urban sprawl).
What would help me to traverse the mountains in my life?
|Do you see bridges or barriers in your life?|
(Photo: Tidelands Park and San Diego-Coronado Bay Bridge)
Throughout the rest of the day I reflected on the barriers and bridges that I accept or construct. Is it possible that I:
- Create the boundaries in my beliefs and attitudes?
- Build fences that separate where I feel comfortable or afraid?
- Limit the information that I take in about you and others?
|What reflections touch you?|
(Photo: San Diego skyline)
After uploading this reflected skyline photo on Facebook many people liked/loved it! We are able to learn from one another when we share our barriers to and bridges of understanding.
The important lesson I have learned is to share the image -- the bars, water, mountains, boats and bridges -- and let go. Allow each person to choose which image speaks to them. We can learn by observing what is liked and loved.
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