I once worked for a supervisor who believed that -- at a certain age -- people no longer change. Being in Human Resources at the time, I thought this a strange conclusion! I was younger and still idealistic, so I challenged her by pointing to the many ways that employees were adapting to changes the institution was making. Our conversation ended in a stalemate when she listed many instances where people were resisting these very same changes.
Over time I have wondered if there are answers... Do people stop changing?... When do we stop changing?
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Do you recall what life was like when you were younger? (Photo: Salmonberry, Ketchikan, Alaska - Larry Gardepie) |
The only hints I have noticed come in the form of Choice:
- Change can be forced upon us... so we have a choice in how we respond.
- Change can stimulate us... we have a choice in how much change to seek out.
- Change is always present... choice allows us to accept its inevitability.
In these, and so many instances, choice seems to be the constant.
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Where do you blossom? (Photo: Wild Blue Flax, Juneau's Salmon Creek - Larry Gardepie) |
Besides choice, there are other Life Ingredients that nurture us and encourage us to grow. (Think of family, faith, and fun.) When taken out of certain environments, we may not do as well. Again, there is a choice of noticing who and what encourages us to blossom and flourish... and then seek out these people and places that support and inspire potential.
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When do you feel at peace? (Photo: Alaskan Lupine and Kenai Peninsula Mountain Range - Larry Gardepie) |
This week I have been in touch with four friends who are in different stages of health issues challenging their concepts of life, mortality, death... and change. Their Life Reviews have centered on personal growth, potential, and loss. Each struggle eventually has been visited by Peace: not a decision to stop change, but a choice and a surrender to accept Life on its terms... not theirs.