The World We Create

As children, the world seemed to center on us: adults providing for us; teaching us; guiding and protecting us.  As we grew, we began to realize that we were not the center of this world.  We were one of many.  It is sometimes hard to shake off that early sense of individualism and importance nurtured where everything focused on our needs and wants.

Having moved away from the protection of my original family unit, I learned that I must find my unique way to create a world that respects people: family, friends, and work colleagues.   And, yes, within this wider context, I still must consider what is important to keep myself fulfilled and healthy. 

Unlike earlier, it is important to balance Me and You.

The World We Create... begins at home
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Several quotes from Conversations Worth Having, a book I am reading, captured my attention this past week:

“We live in worlds our conversations create.”

“The relationship is the conversation.”

“We change best when we are strongest and most positive,

not when we feel the weakest, most negative, or helpless.”

If we share our thoughts, feelings, and experiences, we are creating this world.  If we ask questions born out of a curiosity to know, we are supporting a relationship.  And if we focus on the positive aspects of this world and our relationships, we provide a safe environment to examine the world and our relationships... allowing opportunities for change and growth.

The World We Create... extends to work and friendships
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As I consider this world created around me, I wonder:

• Do I approach every conversation with an expectation that something special will happen?
• Do I understand the impact of the words I choose and the questions I ask?
• Am I willing to seek and acknowledge the positive — the Sacred — in the other person?

The World We Create... can be positive and affirming
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Dialogue -- the conversations that create our world -- provide the foundations that we seek: safe environments to explore; curiosity to learn; listening to understand; and affirmation that life is good.  We become co-creators as we practice our dialogue skills!

May each of us impact this world by anticipating something special will happen.  Let us seek to learn and understand.  And let us affirm positive change this week!

Larry Gardepie

Dialogue San Diego Consulting

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