For me, this one ride brings thrills and chills, bravery and nervousness, fear and excitement. And, on top of that, I have a choice whether I want to ride or not!
Unexpected turns along our journey |
In this past week as I try to stand up and move forward, I find that I am still numb and unbelieving. I find it difficult to stand up without shaking, worried about my footing. I feel as if I am in mourning: having a sense of loss of innocence and goodness.
And, as I listen to other people's stories of pain and anger... as I watch the protests... as I take in information from many sources... I wonder:
- How will we move forward?
- What will we do if our nation remains divided?
- How do we regain our footing?
For me, with a shaky heart and rattled nerves, I am trying to slow down and reflect again on Chris Argyris' Ladder of Inference. I am attempting to begin a Self-Dialogue first, looking inward at the assumptions and beliefs that I carry from childhood into adulthood. For instance:
- Do I really see and experience Sacred Worth and Value: in myself? in others?
- Can I hear, understand, and accept the pain that another person is feeling?
- What will it take for me to sit quietly with you, to listen - without judgment - and to become genuinely curious about your life, its challenges and triumphs?
- How might I hear and accept what is important to you?
- And, is it selfish to hope that you want to hear my truths as well?
Where do I receive information? What are the facts? Which are opinions? Are my conclusions based on reality? |
- What is my [your, our] understanding of America?
- How have I [you, we] experienced The American Dream?
- Do I [you, we] want to move forward when definitions, experiences, and visions are varied?
I wouldn't be surprised if we see or experience life in America differently - for we may be privileged or struggling, hopeful or in despair, content or angry. But, more importantly because of these differing experiences:
- Do we have the courage after this Election Roller Coaster to stand up on rubbery and shaky footing to seek dialogue, healing, and change?
Outwardly beautiful? Yes! What is more important: that which is within! |
As we reflect on the American Image and its Shadows... As we dialogue and seek to understand... As we tend to the wounds of Others and Self... may we achieve a new Dream of Hope and Inclusiveness, a Dream that represents all of us!
Larry Gardepie Dialogue San Diego Consulting |
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