Nature Tells Us: Destruction, Change, and Possibilities

Have you felt nervous or anxious recently?   I have!  It is sometimes hard to escape the negative rhetoric, violent actions, and blame that fills our news these days.  I have noticed at times that I have become impatient or suddenly angry for little or no reason.

Have you experienced this as well? 

Is there something rumbling under your surface?
(Photo:  Thermal Vents, Iceland - Larry Gardepie)

A friend suggested that I pay attention to what my body is telling me:  tightness in my stomach; becoming tired for no reason; stiff neck or headaches.  Nature offers hints of what is happening below the surface.

Living in California, we have learned to document the tremors that shake our world.  Iceland has thermal vents that reminds the people of the enormous energy below their homes.

Nature often warns us of destruction or change, but it also points towards possibilities and hope.

What obscures your view?
(Photo: Icelandic Scenery - Larry Gardepie)

What is troubling about the current political climate is what obscures what is really happening - externally and internally.

Examples:

• Dividing and blaming others. 
• Normalizing bad behavior and words.
• Accepting hate-filled motives and actions. 

If I judge these examples against how I was brought up, I know that my parents would never have tolerated this kind of environment in our home!

The question for all of us, then, might be:  why do we allow these words and actions to become the norm from those who represent us -- who enter our homes with their toxic words and actions?

Do you have wishes for your friends and family?
(Photo:  Dandelion Wishes Ready - Larry Gardepie)

Yes, nature hints at destruction, death, and change, but it also provides daily hope.  As children, we would find dandelions ready to seed, make a wish, blow, and allow the breeze to spread our wish-seeds.

What do you wish for these days?  How can you become the catalyst for positive change?  Where can you share your idea-seeds and allow growth and beauty? 
 

Larry Gardepie

Dialogue San Diego Consulting

History Tells Us: Where Life Takes Us

An elementary school friend and I have been meeting (virtually) every month for most of this year.  Our families knew each other through the church and our parish school.  We had a similar upbringing but then went our own ways in high school and followed our college interests.  Fifty years later we've reconnected.

When we began meeting, we knew we were different people than our childhood memories... but the question for each of us was: how have we changed? 

Which way is she facing?
(Photo:  Perceptions and Illusions, Facebook download)

Over a course of three months we talked about our family values (foundations), our religious or spiritual communities (inspiration), and the filters that define who we are now.  It was only then that we began talking about the more serious topics that govern our country and influence our worldviews.

We talked about the following guidelines before discussing these topics -- the "sandbox" we created to play in:

• Listening and asking questions to understand;
• Respecting the other person's lived experiences; and,
• Trying not to persuade the other person on one way of thinking.

When do you doubt your confidence?
(Photo credit:  Self-doubt and Self-confidence, Facebook download)

It's been a wonderful experiment in dialogue:

• Can I stay in relationship with someone who may have differing views?
• How do I respond when I feel tension or am uncomfortable?
• What happens when I doubt long-held beliefs?
• Where do I get my information? 

 One lesson I learned:  "Listen for the story." (Thanks, Darcy, for adding the aspect of My Story / Our Story.)

What are your "Don't Forgets"?
(Photo credit:  Don't Forget, Madalyn Beck)

Each of us has a story to tell:  the roads we have traveled; the hardships and challenges; the triumphs and lessons learned.  Being true to our personal values is important: being true to communal values is equally important.

What isn't always discussed, though, is the finite time and physical dimensions that limit us:  what it means to be human!  The only way I can move beyond My Limitations is to move from My Story to Our Story.  This means that I must respect Your Story.  As we listen... and learn from one another, My Story, Your Story and Our Story grow.  In other words, we learn to See Other in other.

Where has your life taken you?  How can I learn from you?

Larry Gardepie

Dialogue San Diego Consulting

History Tells Us: Voices From Our Past

Boston is one city that all Americans should experience.  It overflows with voices from our past: ordinary people who lived, breathed, and fought for freedom.  As I walked around the city, American History came alive when I saw Old North Church, Paul Revere's statue, and other places that evoked the Boston Tea Party, the Midnight Ride, and Lexington and Concord.

Our hotel, being located in the midst of these historical sites, contained a series of wall panels with important quotes about liberty, justice, and the Common Good. 

How do you make good use of your freedom?
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(Photo: John Adams,
Boston Harborside Inn - Larry Gardepie)

I have been reflecting on these wall panels over the past several weeks:

• Do we listen to the lessons of previous generations?
• Are we able -- or willing -- to change our current course?
• What inspires us to work for the good of others?

Do your actions inspire others?
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(Photo: John Quincy Adams,
Boston Harborside Inn - Larry Gardepie)

What troubles me about the recent violence and rhetoric?  We are no longer involved in Civil Discourse.  Leaders and representatives from our earliest foundations disagreed on how to move forward, but they tried to engage in constructive, respectful, and productive conversations. Yes, they represented diverse colonies and interests, but they learned to listen to the needs of the other colonists as well.

What can you do for our country now?
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(Photo: John F. Kennedy,
Boston Harborside Inn - Larry Gardepie)

This engagement carried responsibilities that future leaders understood: to perfect this imperfect union (Inspiration); to ask what you can do for others (Service); to learn to live together (Community).

These values and other truths became self-evident.

Are we living together or perishing?
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(Photo: Martin Luther King, Jr.,
Boston Harborside Inn - Larry Gardepie)

Questions we may want to consider in the weeks ahead:

• Do I (we) listen to voices that divide... and why?
• Am I (we) living in fear of others... and why?
• How can I (we) listen and work toward healing?

As John Adams asks of us:  Do we understand how much our freedom cost previous generations? Are we making good use of that freedom?
 

Larry Gardepie

Dialogue San Diego Consulting