Grandeur of the open seas |
As I return from recent travels, I find that I continue to reflect on the lessons learned through these Self- and Other- discoveries. I assumed that being "on vacation" would allow time to practice the Dialogue Skills at a leisurely pace. What with time and a slower pace of daily life, I thought that I could observe and reflect with more deliberateness. But, life happens!
Sometimes life seems to be a chess game |
This first encounter seemed unbalanced, out of kilter, skewed.
Kubuswonig ("Cube Houses"), Rotterdam |
I sat back confused! Sometimes the dialogue we seek is a shadow of what is really happening. How can we dialogue when another person doesn't invite questions? How do we deal with our assumptions and the other steps of our Ladders of Inference while we remain blind to what another person is thinking, feeling, or attempting to convey?
Dialogue sometimes seems to be a "shadow" |
Over the next few days I found that I was reliving the first day's encounter:
- Why was I so engaged in what I considered an "unreasonable" request?
- How would I respond if I encountered her again?
- What would happen if we unknowingly took a picture with her in the background?
- Should I change my behavior to accommodate her?
Upon reflection, I realized that I oftentimes walk around burdened by the weight of my many Ladders. The stories I create become his-stories, her-stories, my-stories and our-stories that separate and influence future responses.
As we journey through this next week - whether working, playing or vacationing, maybe it is time to look up, notice the Ladders we carry, and allow ourselves to see new realities. And, instead of being silenced by the stories that separate, maybe we can let go of these shadows and come a step closer to accepting the request to delete these digital memories that have captured us. There is freedom in looking up and letting go!
Ceiling of St. Peter's Cathedral (Trier, Germany) |
If you travel this summer, be safe and enjoy moments of discovery!
Larry Gardepie |
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